I’ve written this post a thousand times in my head, and yet somehow sitting down in front of my keyboard, I’m struggling to get anything out. Which is ironic, because this post is about getting out of your own way to find success.
We’re gonna get real here. For me getting in your own way means self-doubt. It means putting yourself down. Which can result in getting stuck in a rut, with no motivation to do anything more than absolutely necessary. That kind of negativity can have drastic effects on your life and hold you back from reaching your best potential.
Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.
We all have dreams about what we want our lives to look like, and what we would consider reaching success. The difference in the people who become successful and those that don’t is making a plan and then actually following through with it. One of the truest things I have read is that you should be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods. Personally, one of the hardest parts of that process is being vulnerable. You have to be honest with yourself about what you want out of this life, and then, to make it happen, you might even have to share those goals with others (gasp).
First things first, evaluate yourself, your relationships, your career. It’s pretty scary from the 50,000 ft view, but you need to see where you are to figure out where you’re going. (Insert quarter-life crisis.) Maybe your idea of where you want to be seems unrealistic to other people, and maybe it even seems crazy to you. Isn’t it at least worth a shot?
Stop daydreaming, start working.
So you know what the ideal scenario looks like for you, and let’s be real you probably always knew on some level. What’s next? We can’t all just be out here daydreaming, we’ve got to put in some work. Set goals for yourself. Some really big goals and some milestones along the way that let you know you are on the right track. Your goals are what you envision when the journey sucks. When you wonder why you ever put yourself out of your comfort zone to pursue some crazy idea in the first place, just think of your end game and know that your own personal idea of success will be so worth it.
Make a plan.
Make a plan. You know where you wanna be, so map out your way to get there. Unfortunately, we don’t have GPS to help us out here. Break your main goal down into steps and give yourself a realistic timeframe to meet them. Be accountable and hold yourself to it! Write it down somewhere that you will see it and remember what you are working towards. Then take those steps and break them down even further into tasks for your to-do list!
This is where I am, following my plan, learning the skills I need along the way, and trying to stay inspired and motivated. Some ideas to keep your drive going — positive-self talk only, prayer and praise, mantras, vision board, self-help books (Yes, really), reward yourself, and when it all feels like it’s falling apart, don’t take no for an answer.
So what’s holding you back? Fear? Fear of what others will think, fear that you fail, fear of embarrassment? I realized the scariest thing to me would be looking back years from now wondering what I could have been if I had only tried.